Gossip Girl here, your one and only source into the scandalous lives of Manhattan's elite ... well not really, but sometimes I think it would be fun to have a blog on which to read updates about the people more or less known ... this just before I realized that on-line platform operated by unknown on which anyone can write about ruining my life a bit is not necessarily an advantage for your social life! Certainly can help if you follow the motto of the increasingly popular "for better or worse, The important thing is that we speak, "but it's better to leave it all in a show!
But one thing we must admit: the gossip of interest to anyone! Who is more, some less, does not escape the trap of spetteguless anyone, even if only read the gossip magazines while waiting in the dentist's waiting room or listen to the conversation of two strangers at the bus stop because you do not have anything better to do!
regard to how they absorb this news , everyone has their own methods and to list them all you probably write an encyclopedia worth of the best editions of the Treccani! There are however some points I wish to focus attention, including perhaps some advice. Ready? Go!
>> In all rounds of gossipy friends is the best person and mind you, is not always regarded as such by the majority! So keep your ears and eyes open and once you've found, do not go and report every single detail of your life! Unless you want to make this known to the whole district, in which case tell her everything will be an excellent distribution channel! If, however, analyzing each person with whom you can not find out what the most gossipy ... well, maybe you should go in front of one of those glossy surfaces commonly referred to as reflective mirrors!
>> The web now, thanks largely to socialnetworks, is a tool that greatly facilitates the search for information about other people el 'experience, together with a good dose of intuition (and hours-nothing), it can really help you discover everything about practically anyone . Do not forget that this is a double edged sword, which also gives others the chance to know almost everything about us: therefore, before bemoaning the disappearance of privacy remember that continues to apply the same old method used to hide things = not say, or in this case not write them!
>> riflettutto concept on which I first read "The Legend of Otori" by Lean Hearn (and which I consider very true when we reflect a little bit, too) who is pretending to be invisible, often helps in the collection of information (whether or spetteguless more serious things)! With "invisible pretend" I do not mean that we should listen more to hide, I mean that if passed as an insignificant person will be unlikely that the present hesitation to speak in your presence. Think about it: if you want to criticize a fellow student in the presence of another student who reads a book, taciturn, perhaps with a little air 'secchioncella, how much trouble do you? Certainly far fewer than there would in the presence of a high-blonde one meter eighty constantly chatting with other friends of the clan! This brings us to our next point:
>> indifference. If you need to do background checks or are you talking to someone you do not know too well, you will almost certainly be asking for more information at random, as if, after all, you do not care much about the answer: you will not hear the other person being questioned and speak more quietly than if you'd like dilungaste in a series of questions with the best expression to Barbara D'Urso!
>> Last but not least, let's not forget the previously mentioned intuition, which can help you discover a wealth of information without exposing yourself in person! But be careful: as information processed by your mind, you should not to go and spread around like a poster displaying the absolute truth!
After this list of terms superfluous, is right to set limits:
>> NEVER confuse a gossip with confidence! Friends or not, is not something that makes you a better person. Feel empowered to spread only things that anyone could know.
>> avoid discrediting a free person, whatever the reason! If you are angry for a wrong that was done, show superior intelligence or behavior maturo, cosa che il gossip non è. Infatti...
>> ...essere pettegoli non è una qualità! Come si dice, il gioco è bello quando dura poco, ergo non fatene l'occupazione o la preoccupazione principale della vostra vita, ci sono modi migliori per occupare il proprio tempo!
>> Quando è possibile andate a chiedere informazioni alla persona direttamente interessata, soprattutto se tra di voi c'è un rapporto che va al di là della semplice conoscenza: eviterete futuri litigi e avrete risposte decisamente più attendibili di quelle che potrebbe fornirvi il vicino-dell'amico-della zia congolese-della barista-della sorella-del cugino-di...
>> This is personal, but keep things in themselves from a sense of power at times! XD Not to mention that not everything is done for publicity. Before publishing something, you think, "if it happened to me, I wish you knew?" And choose accordingly.
There are places where the gossip can not be avoided even if you want, such as school, the hairdresser, a bar in the town center, the workplace, and ... is not that a bit 'of gossip is always a evil, may prevent atrocious style figures
"How's your boyfriend, you are always pici-pici-you-love-madly? = D "" I actually left after 5 years to my best friend which now expecting a child " "... Shovel, please ..." or
"In sti days are really boring, then thou hast now face a terrible, that is, you killed my grandfather??" "Yes!" "Ah. ........ oh ........"
Moral of pappardelle: once it was established the usefulness of gossip as general knowledge, avoid excessive use and limit ourselves to essential uses, as well as occasional respecting the feelings of others!
xoxo
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